HAPPY OCTOBER 18th
That is what we say to each other in our family…every year on this day. Why, you might ask? Well, it is a special day to my children and myself because that is the day we were all Free of the Abuser in our life.
All the time and waiting for court cases to end, and waiting for the ability to move to be with family…the wait was over…that was the day we walked into the courthouse bound…and came out free!
During that day at court, our abuser (their Father) gave up his parental rights…he did so to gain a lighter sentence. That day the Judge told my children that now I was their Mother and their Father…she joked that I could scold them in one room and then take them into another room and do it again.
I could not wipe the smile off their faces…nor did I want to…It had been a very, very long time since I had seen that level of happiness in them.
We decided to go to the store and get something special for dinner that night. You know… I don’t even remember what we got for the meal, but I do know, my oldest saw some champagne glasses…since it was Autumn, the tops of the glasses were a gold color and the stems were clear. It was mentioned that we should get them to celebrate…So we bought four of them, along with a bottle of Sparkling Cider ( could not have the real stuff until they grew up a lot more ), along with the food and headed home.
That night we shared a meal in the dining room, and toasted with our sparkling cider…then one of my children (don’t remember who at this time) said… “we should do this every year.”
And that is how our October 18th celebration came about…We have since celebrated it, and promised each other that no matter what or where we are on that date…we would come together, spend the day…just the four of us, and have a toast in those same glasses…then with care, we pack them up, place them in a box that is marked for the occasion and put the box carefully away on the shelf until the next year.
I just wanted to share with you the Love I feel for my children, they are the true Hero’s in our story…because they were so very courageous in coming forth with things that were so very hard. I commend them for doing so…I could not do it for myself, I truly thought I had shielded them from the abuse, and that they were not enduring it…when I finally found out, because one of my Brave children came forward, I found the courage to do something about it. I finally became the mother they needed. I finally opened my eyes, and realized that they had seen, heard, and endured, more than I was willing to admit.
So again I say…to my children…HAPPY OCTOBER 18th, and may we share many, many more together! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!
Thanks for Hearing!