I have to take a few minutes to tell you about a group of people who saved our family. These were people who I did not want to let into our lives. The reasons were many… some of the reasons were… I did not want more people who could potentially betray us, as had been done in the past. I did not want to explain our situation again, as it had been done so many times, we were all tired of trying. I did not trust many people to do what they said they would do, as we had already been told we would be helped by people in the court system…only to be pushed further back. And Last…I did not want a group of “BIKERS”, around my children…to me, they were a scary bunch of people. Don’t get me wrong…I have family and friends that are motorcycle riders, and who ride with other motorcycle riders, but a Group of Bikers….there has always been a stigma surrounding them.
I WAS WRONG!!!!!! This organization turned out to be the biggest group of Angels we have ever seen.
I first heard about them from my family, who were miles away from us, and yes, we felt all alone…even though we had friends who supported us, it was not like having your family there. My mother called me and said she had been in contact with a group of people who could help us. As she started talking about them, I couldn’t believe that MY MOM, was telling be to associate myself with a group of Bikers. I told her I did not want to do it. She gave me the phone number of a person I needed to contact, and I don’t know what happened to it, but I lost it…not by accident, I’m certain.
After many court dates about a number of things, and my children being more and more afraid to do things…we did not go out much, other than school or work, and they did not play in the yard anymore, for fear that their abuser would take them. It was a living Hell!
One day, as I was coming home from work with my children, I noticed a biker at the end of the street…it was a unsusal site on that rural stretch of road. It unnerved me a bit, because I was worried about our abuser, and the threats that had been made due to an upcoming court date. I went in the house and called my Mom, who along with a brother was coming to be with us during court. This date was not for about a month, and I was just talking to her about my concerns. She said. “Don’t be afraid, they wont hurt you.” I was in shock…my Mom knew about some biker being on my street. I asked if she had sent them, and told her she had no right to do it. She said that as a Mom, I should be able to understand the helplessness she felt, thinking her child was in danger, and she only wanted to do something to help.
Well, that did it…I listened to her, as I realized I was not the only mother afraid for her children. She told me she was in contact with them (B.A.C.A.) and told them about the threats that were given to us…she also said that they had a few members in the area that would ride by once in a while to make sure things were ok…but, they could not come in and talk to us, or do anything except call the police if something were amiss, unless we contacted them and allowed them to come in.
After she explained that they would not even stop at the end of our driveway without our permission…it made a big difference to me, I realize that they respected our situation and would respect our boundaries as well.
That night I made the call and 2 days later was the first visit. You have to know that I was so very scared to allow anyone into our lives, but they explained what they were there for, and what they did, and I felt that if my children could feel safe, have a good nights sleep, and testify in court, it would be worth it.
We kept our curtains shut, and it looked like no one lived at our house most of the time. We were inside, waiting for them to come, and heard the thunderous sound of the bikes,well before they came down our street. We all looked at each other, and I could tell that my children were a little apprehensive. I said, “It’s ok, they are coming to help us.” I did not even know if I believed my own words. Then we heard them come into the driveway, and slowly but surely it became silent, as each of the bikes found a place and they turned them off. We did not see them come, as we just stood in the living room, curtains closed, waiting.
Then the knock came at the door, and I hesitantly went to open it. When I did, I saw a very Tall Menacing looking man standing there. I wondered if I had made a mistake in my decision to allow them to come. He was soft-spoken when he introduced himself, and asked us all to come out and meet the group. When we did, my children clung to me, as I have never seen them do before. The leader spoke to them by getting down to their level. He let them know that they were there to protect them, and that they were a family, and wanted my children to be one of their family. Then they gave them each a jacket with a patch on the back and told them that they were now part of the B.A.C.A. family, and when they wore those jackets, it let all members of B.A.C.A. know that they were a B.A.C.A. child. They gave them a few other things, and Each of my children, slowly warmed up to them…they even put them on the bikes to see how it felt to be on a motorcycle. They loved it.
Then the leader asked me to go into the house so we could take care of some paperwork and talk about what they would be doing….WHAT…GO INSIDE AND LEAVE MY CHILDREN OUTSIDE??? I did not say those words, but you could see that he knew what I was thinking, because he said…”You can open those curtains and watch them from the window.” He promised, that they would be safe, and if I felt uncomfortable, I could come back out with them.
I can’t tell you why, but I felt at ease at that point. This never happened, especially with strangers, and I never trusted people I did not know with my children…Because even people I did know, turned out to be the ones to hurt them.
We went in, and as we were talking, a Miracle happened…I heard laughter…something I had not heard from my children for quite some time, and when I looked up…They were playing…actually playing, and it continued…it started getting dark and it seemed they did not even notice. I started to cry…then I felt a hand on my shoulder and one of the angels said to me. ” I Promised you would be safe, and I think your children know it too.”
He was right…they did so much for us in that small space of time, and it only continued. They visited often, my children came out of their shells, and felt safe, we went to court among an entourage of bikers and my children stood tall.
It was a long road, because court was cancelled, postponed, etc., many times, but every time… B.A.C.A. was there, every step of the way…Even when the District Attorney was hesitant to allow them in the courtroom. We had a practice run, where the District Attorney, and the Children went into the courtroom and he told them where they would be and what they would do…he asked B.A.C.A. to stay outside the courtroom when they were practicing, and they were very nervous. One of my children had a really hard time…kept fidgeting, and not concentrating on the questions, and even stuttering…then the District Attorney asked if they wanted their friends to come into the courtroom…it was a resounding YES. After they came in, my child smiled, and stopped fidgeting, and when asked the questions, was able to state the answer clearly and without stuttering. The District Attorney turned to me and said… “They can stay!”
That was it…they were allowed into the courtroom, and it made all the difference.
I guess what I want to say with this post is THANK YOU! Thanks to Chief for founding such a wonderful group. Thanks to all the members around the world who take time from their own schedules, both personal and work to help children get through some of the worst times of their lives, and for giving them their strength back. This group of selfless people change lives.
If you need them, or if you know of someone who needs them go to http://www.bacaworld.org – You will not be sorry that you did.
You do need to have an open court case for them to get involved, but they can also give you information and help you find the people to contact if you do not have an open case.
We were lucky enough to meet Chief one time, and my children were in heaven. I was so grateful. I hope all our B.A.C.A. Angels know how much they changed our lives. We are still friends with one of the angels who came into our lives, and we cherish the friendship. We are also grateful for all those who came from all over to help us…your sacrafices and selfless acts will never be forgotten.
Thanks for hearing us!